Although I'm attached I'm in the mood for a creative friend with benefits on the side... I have thought about what to write here and have opted for unfettered honesty in hopes of finding a kindred spirit (dare to dream) to share what I believe we are all here to share. I am the guy next door – average, to better-than-average looking (although admittedly soft around the waist these days) with a successful role at work, a successful position in the community, and a bevy of life-long friends. I have a nice car, a nice home in a nice community, a big wonderful goofy dog, a cat and numerous local birds that count on my stocked feeders for morning and afternoon snacks. I have had few sexual partners in my life instead opting for committed relationships. At present, I am in the sixth year of a partnership that has been, among other things, comfortable, secure, suitable, reassuring, and at times enraging, and annoying - in short, a pretty typical long-term relationship. One thing my relationship has not been is sexually exciting or satisfying. At this point, I am no longer interested in an unexciting and infrequent sex life. In fact, I spend an inordinate amount of time fantasizing about sexual encounters – mid-life crises…perhaps? Whatever the cause, the desires have remained strong enough for this guy next door to join this site and post these comments in hopes of finding my situational “needle-in-the-haystack”. I am seeking to augment my life by finding a friend with benefits - I am not seeking to upset my current home - I hope this describes you as well. Oh, by the way, I am not interested in meeting-up just once and not knowing you or knowing something about your life – how cold is that? Instead, I would opt for a first meeting (or three…) for coffee, a beer, a round of golf, a workout at the gym or dinner, etc… Physically, I like guys in their forties(ish) (i.e. close to my age - could be late 30’s to mid 50’s) – I’m 6’4” (and a bit) so I hope you are not 5’2”…I prefer guys that are guys – a little hair on the body is good not required – a little hair on the face is also good not required – nice manly legs are not required but that really works for me. Clean is a must, and non-smoking is a must. Body-wise – there are some truly beautiful men on this site – I enjoy looking at them all. For me most are good except extremes - extremely overweight to extremely thin – perality and chemistry is paramount for the right situation. My hopes are that behind closed doors you are creative, experimental, open minded and will convey what you want and can comfortably slide between aggressive to passive depending on the mood and the moment. I am a newbie at this and will take it all slow – I hope you understand and will help me find my comfort zone – I believe you will be happy you did so.

My Ideal Person I am seeking a friend with benefits. An open minded guy who is casual in nature and creative and exciting in the bedroom (or, backyard – whatever floats your boat - I'm open). Someone who likes to kiss and touch and who enjoys a wide array of sexually activities from showering together, to masturbation, to giving and receiving oral, to edging, to straight out fucking.

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
I have fantasized about being in a 3-way with two handsome,
well built, hairy guys in their 40's – all three of us
edging. Starting and stopping a variety a sexual activities
for hours – from oral to masturbation to fucking – in all
the combinations possible with 3 guys...but, not releasing.
Until that that is, we cannot bear it any longer and that
primal drive takes over and pure sexual aggression drives
it out.

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
Several - let's talk

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Rimming, Role Playing, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Massage

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
I am oftern more interested in fantasizing about the guys
I encounter in everyday life -

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've done it so many times that I've forgotten how to type with two hands.

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